3 Confidence Building Techniques That Could Change Your Life

The Dalai Lama once said that ‘with realization of one’s own potential and self-confidence in one’s ability, one can build a better world.’ Thus highlighting the importance of self-confidence should never be underplayed and equally anyone suffering from lack of it should give themselves every chance of conquering their self-esteem issues and becoming a better person.

Success is subjective and so it’s up to each and every person to decide upon what constitutes achievement in their mind, but during this process, anything that’s holding them back should be removed. If you find yourself lacking in this area, on the odd occasion or more regularly, you will know how limiting it can be. However, there are plenty of ways you can help yourself out. Here are a few techniques to try.

Mental Rehearsal

This technique is used by many people in the world of sport and was probably responsible for quite a few gold medals in the London 2012 Olympics. The process involves visualizing an action you are about to attempt (be that an important business presentation or the final of the high jump) and imagine it going absolutely perfect. Imagine the method you will use to achieve your faultless success. Imagine the emotions that you will feel having completed the task. And imagine everyone else’s positive reaction to what you have accomplished.

The act of going through these stages in your mind again and again will instil the confidence within you to go out and recreate it for real, as well as giving you the perfect blueprint to follow when carrying out the task.

Borrowing The State Of Someone You Admire

This technique involves borrowing the mind-set of somebody you admire and using it to give you the confidence to do something you otherwise couldn’t. The aim is to totally encapsulate every aspect of the person in question so as to also take on the confidence that they ooze.

Start off by choosing someone you hold in high esteem and who has confidence in abundance. This could be a famous person or someone from your personal life that you know well. Then imagine yourself as them by literally stepping into their body. Try to see the world as they would see it and ask yourself what they would be thinking about when confronted with whatever it is you are facing. By accessing these thoughts, feelings and actions you can then ‘borrow’ these and apply them to your own life.


For confidence to flourish, there is a need to try many different techniques to see what works best for you, and this includes self-hypnosis. Hypnotherapy has been proven to assist with issues such as this and so you can choose to either see a specialist in person or attempt some of the steps yourself.

Self-hypnosis requires you to find a quiet room and make sure that you are totally relaxed and undisturbed by anything around you. You should then close your eyes and begin to clear your mind of any obscuring thoughts that may be swimming around your head. You can then begin to release the tension from your body, addressing each of the different areas as you travel from your toes up towards your head; remembering to take deep breaths the whole time.

At this point various methods can be used in order to induce yourself into a trance-like state. The most common one is to imagine yourself descending a staircase into a swimming pool and then swimming to different boxes which contain enlightening occurrences. It is these that will help to affect your struggling confidence issues. Find out more on self-hypnosis here.

By Chris Mayhew

Chris Mayhew has used mental rehearsal before when participating in sport and has often taken steps to increase his confidence. He would recommend Fix My Mind, a hypnotherapist in London, to anyone wanting to address their self-esteem.

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By Chris Mayhew who enjoys learning new things and establishing new ways to enhance his brain. He would recommend creativity courses from Now Go Create to anyone wanting to improve their ability to be creative.